For my friends and fiends, fellow DUers--I have not been around much lately
And will not be posting much for the next while, but I do miss the camaraderie
However, I could use a few 
as my almost 95 year old mother passed suddenly today after a fall yesterday. She is at peace and I have expected something like this, but still need a little time. I have been a caregiver for her the last 15 years or so (although she lived in assisted care the past three years) and I have a helluva lot to do the next few weeks.
Thoughts and prayers gratefully accepted.
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Healing vibes on the way to you.
take good care of yourself. 
My virtual arms are always around you
Take care you yourself and come back soon
You are so very loved
Even at any age, it's a shock when it happens so suddenly. Take care of yourself, it's important right now.
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So very Sorry what you're bravely going through, Maeve.. I know it's hard. saying goodbye to our Loved ones.
Prayers coming your way.
Very sorry to read this. Take care of yourself!
the good memories of your Mom always comfort you.
Being a caregiver to an aging loved one is a most noble endeavor. I'm sure you have a lot to process and I hope you will give yourself grace to do so.
RIP to your dear mother.
*My 4YO granddaughter is Maeve - my favorite name!
Please take all the time you need for yourself and family, and know we're sorry for your treasured loss.
God Speed and may your memories keep you. 
For you to come to calm within your grief
Ready with the virtual hugs or need to vent.
Grief is a very challenging emotion, and I wish you strength in the days ahead. 
Same happened to my mom a decade ago. It was tough for a long time but it does get better.
My rational side doesn't believe it, but sometimes I think she and dad are still around giving me timely pearls of wisdom. That's probably just me being old enough now to really appreciate what they told me all those years.
a lot of time almost every day during her final months in a nursing home, because the staff there had so much trouble coping with her very rare swallowing disorder, achalasia, which some of the aides had never heard of and only one specialist in the city had any expertise with). It wasn't as sudden a loss for me, of course, but losing a parent is hard, and losing a loved one you've been a caregiver for is hard, and the combination is wrenching.
We're here for you. I'm praying your mother will be able to send you some signs to help comfort you.
for your loss.
Send healing your way
I knew you were taking care of your mom and I hope you are consoled in the fact that no matter how difficult it might have been, that you got to spend as much time as you could with her.
All my love and sympathies to you and your family for your loss and I know what you did was much appreciated.
I know from experience that in order to tackle that, you probably need to pick just one thing to do each day and not get overwhelmed by what needs to be done. 
and my mom's financial stuff was my wheelhouse for management/notifications, etc. She was a widow who was getting SS & a survivor's annuity (my dad was a fed before he passed). I kept a spreadsheet for paying all her utilities until the house was sold. My other sister's hubby had a lawyer friend who helped to take care of the will/estate/taxes, etc. It's one of those things where you have to really sit down and plot out so many parts and pieces. 
Prayers coming your way.
Wishing you peace of mind
Please take comfort in knowing you were there for her during her final years with love, caring and support. You both are in my thoughts. Take care, dear Maeve.
Sending healing vibes to you.
I'll be holding you in my heart.
May her memory be a blessing for you and yours.
What a terrible shock that must have been. I extend to you my deepest sympathy.
May peace find and comfort you.
... that's a tough one. hang in there ... 