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Trust_Reality

(2,303 posts)
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:18 PM 5 hrs ago

My wife, home alone, opened the door to a door-to-door salesman.

(I know. I've tried!)
She made an appointment for presenters to return. They were from Power Home Remodeling. Two upper 20s or 30 something men. One selling insulation, the other selling Pella Windows. We've been wanting/needing better windows, so the product was of interest.

The insulation salesman was fairly courteous. The Pella salesman was the type of sales person that makes me hate salesmen. Aggressive, fast talking, diverted from my questions to something else. Ignored my questions. Not particularly courteous. Aggressive!

My wife is the daughter of an Air Force Chaplain. I think there is no door-to-door sales on Air Force bases. When someone came to their door it was to see Chaplain Smith or his wife. Be nice. Be sweet. Be kind, etc. The safety and security of a military base officer's quarters is not the real world.

My advice - probably not needed by most people.

Never do business with a door-to-door sales person.
If the product is of interest, get a card or brochure so you can explore the company or product on your own terms.
Say no thank you and close the door. Their goal is to keep the door open.
Just CLOSE THE DAMN DOOR.

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My wife, home alone, opened the door to a door-to-door salesman. (Original Post) Trust_Reality 5 hrs ago OP
NOPE. IT'S "DON'T EVEN OPEN THE DAMN DOOR!".... ColoringFool 5 hrs ago #1
Absolutely! SheltieLover 4 hrs ago #11
I NEVER open the door unless I know Who it is--i have the advantage of looking riversedge 1 hr ago #55
Another Useful Rule: Never Hire a Contractor From a Company That Runs Frequent TV Ads. MineralMan 5 hrs ago #2
+1. Plumbing and HVAC companies that run TV ads are the worst. They want to replace, not repair dalton99a 5 hrs ago #5
There's a commission on a sale. Conjuay 4 hrs ago #14
And never, EVER front them the money. They get paid when the job is done to your satisfaction! n/t PatrickforB 3 hrs ago #31
Do not touch the door. Ignore them, and call the cops if they try to loiter dalton99a 5 hrs ago #3
I don't open my door to anyone Diamond_Dog 5 hrs ago #4
Same here, DD! SheltieLover 4 hrs ago #12
When the Jehovah's Witness people come by, I invite them in to see my Amway products. Permanut 2 hrs ago #42
Having been on both sides of that door I endorse this post SSJVegeta 4 hrs ago #6
Once I was mowing my front lawn and was approached by a guy spooky3 4 hrs ago #7
That was quick thinking! Good for you! Diamond_Dog 4 hrs ago #13
TY! A more unsettling incident was when I was sick and spooky3 4 hrs ago #20
I would also be leery of letting someone I don't know come inside if I were home alone. Diamond_Dog 4 hrs ago #26
Not just these days. It has always been that way for women. Since my niyad 2 hrs ago #50
Smart Joinfortmill 2 hrs ago #39
Maybe 1980, a steak salesman came to the door nilram 2 hrs ago #48
Good one! Nt spooky3 1 hr ago #52
Around here, it is more likely to be young evangelists from LDS or 7th Day Adventists or other... hlthe2b 4 hrs ago #8
The days of the proverbial Fuller Brush Man are long gone. Intractable 4 hrs ago #9
It must be such a treat to be married to you, belittling and infantilizing your wife on DU. Maru Kitteh 4 hrs ago #10
I first thought it was going to be satire leftstreet 3 hrs ago #32
I know. Yikes! Joinfortmill 2 hrs ago #41
I live near a major city - TBF 4 hrs ago #15
I have an outer metal gate in front door with an atrium in the middle kimbutgar 4 hrs ago #16
Can't win anywhere by opening the door. And some non-advice. usonian 4 hrs ago #17
We've had a couple of vacuum cleaner guys around. The rest are madinmaryland 4 hrs ago #18
A lot of those outfits are scammy as fuck Stacey Grove 4 hrs ago #19
The Pella guy was aggressive because their product is crap LT Barclay 4 hrs ago #21
They may ask you to sign their tablet just showing that they visited your house. If you do they will use the twodogsbarking 4 hrs ago #22
I feel bad for your wife, she was probably the only person who actually answered the door FakeNoose 4 hrs ago #23
The best two dollars I've spent in while. Ohiya 4 hrs ago #24
We have a No Soliciting sign at the entrance to our sub. llmart 3 hrs ago #30
I have a No Soliciting sign just underneath my doorbell. SeattleVet 2 hrs ago #51
I don't open the door to any strangers. Way to dangerous TommieMommy 4 hrs ago #25
Another threat was covered by an AARP Bulletin story about a year ago. There allegorical oracle 3 hrs ago #27
Diabolical Joinfortmill 2 hrs ago #44
This message was self-deleted by its author LogDog75 3 hrs ago #28
Nope. Don't let any sales people in the door. You cannot get rid of them. Initech 3 hrs ago #29
Huge red flag xuplate 3 hrs ago #33
One way to stop them in their tracks is to ask for the city license/permit for sales LogDog75 3 hrs ago #34
Even better, don't open it in the first place. ananda 3 hrs ago #35
I just saw a video on SocialDemocrat61 3 hrs ago #36
Maybe she just shouldn't be home when they return. Or just shoo them away. LeftInTX 3 hrs ago #37
We're lucky in one regard. cab67 3 hrs ago #38
I never answer the door for unannounced visitors or the phone for unknown callers. GoodRaisin 2 hrs ago #40
I never answer a knock on my door JoseBalow 2 hrs ago #43
I love the first one! n/t ReRe 2 hrs ago #47
I have doorbell cameras. murielm99 2 hrs ago #45
i have a sign that says i charge $50 to listen to their pitch moonshinegnomie 2 hrs ago #46
I never ever open the door, they can ring the bell and knock on Raine 2 hrs ago #49
Growing up Faux pas 1 hr ago #53
I never answer the door nor the phone unless I know who it is. hamsterjill 1 hr ago #54
"Potential" doorbells (satire!) usonian 1 hr ago #56
Better yet Rebl2 1 hr ago #57
Captain Beefheart sold door-to-door orthoclad 10 min ago #58

ColoringFool

(1,421 posts)
1. NOPE. IT'S "DON'T EVEN OPEN THE DAMN DOOR!"....
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:21 PM
5 hrs ago

Card? Leave one on the porch.

You're welcome.

I speak as a woman living alone.

riversedge

(82,301 posts)
55. I NEVER open the door unless I know Who it is--i have the advantage of looking
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 04:10 PM
1 hr ago

through a small side window. But moons ago when I lived in an apartment--there are peepholes.

MineralMan

(152,101 posts)
2. Another Useful Rule: Never Hire a Contractor From a Company That Runs Frequent TV Ads.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:30 PM
5 hrs ago

Use Google. Read reviews. Get at least four bids on any complicated or large job you need done. You'll be shocked. You can also get a bid from one of the the TV Ad companies. You'll be more shocked. You're going to pay for those expensive ads you see over and over again. Yes, you are.

Choose your contractor on the basis of price, published reviews, and the sense their proposal makes. Don't use the reviews on their websites, either. Read Google reviews and lots of them. Don't just read the good reviews. Read them all.

If you take the time to choose a good, honest contractor, you'll get good, honest work at a price that you can afford.

dalton99a

(96,383 posts)
5. +1. Plumbing and HVAC companies that run TV ads are the worst. They want to replace, not repair
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:38 PM
5 hrs ago

at exorbitant prices

And there is a reason they have to run TV ads


PatrickforB

(15,558 posts)
31. And never, EVER front them the money. They get paid when the job is done to your satisfaction! n/t
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:14 PM
3 hrs ago

dalton99a

(96,383 posts)
3. Do not touch the door. Ignore them, and call the cops if they try to loiter
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:33 PM
5 hrs ago

Last edited Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:11 PM - Edit history (1)

Most door-to-door salespeople are losers. Some have criminal backgrounds.

Some of them pretend to be a utility worker by wearing a reflective vest.

They have no business knowing who lives in your house or what you have or your daily routine.


Diamond_Dog

(41,556 posts)
4. I don't open my door to anyone
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:35 PM
5 hrs ago

Unless I can plainly see that it’s my neighbor or I’m expecting someone.

I used to when I was young and naive but I quickly learned how to shut the door on Jehovahs Witnesses while they were in mid sentence.

Permanut

(8,738 posts)
42. When the Jehovah's Witness people come by, I invite them in to see my Amway products.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:59 PM
2 hrs ago

Well, I've thought about doing it anyway. Plus I don't have any Amway stuff, don't know if they're still in business.

spooky3

(39,025 posts)
7. Once I was mowing my front lawn and was approached by a guy
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:56 PM
4 hrs ago

Selling steaks (Trump steaks?). I said “no thanks” and he asked me why my husband wasn’t doing the yard work. I said “because I like doing it”, which is true, but I wasn’t about to tell him there is no man in the house.

spooky3

(39,025 posts)
20. TY! A more unsettling incident was when I was sick and
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:23 PM
4 hrs ago

Ordered groceries to be delivered by Instacart. The very pleasant looking delivery guy offered to bring them in my house and set them on the kitchen counter. I thanked him but said I’m happy to take them from him.

I soon learned that he had put all the meat and fish in one bag, and did NOT deliver it. I reported it to Instacart and they issued a credit but seemed unconcerned. The grocery store later started their own delivery service; employees said “Instacart doesn’t screen employees carefully.” No shit.

Diamond_Dog

(41,556 posts)
26. I would also be leery of letting someone I don't know come inside if I were home alone.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:44 PM
4 hrs ago

I don’t care what the reason. It’s just called being smart.

Was reading a Reddit thread not long ago about the safety precautions women must think of these days that most men wouldn’t ever consider.

niyad

(135,478 posts)
50. Not just these days. It has always been that way for women. Since my
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:27 PM
2 hrs ago

teens, wayyyyyyy back in the last millenium, after an ex tried to kill me, I have advocated for all women and girls to take martial arts training, or, at the very least, basic self defense classes.

I do not open my door to anyone unless I am expecting them. I do not leave my dooor open if it will be out of my sight. Heck, I do not even answer my phone unless the number is in my contact list. My insurance company has a visiting nurse wellness check thing, which I refuse. They finally stopped calling and annoying me about them.


"Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women (with good reason !!! ), are afraid men wiil kill them."

nilram

(3,593 posts)
48. Maybe 1980, a steak salesman came to the door
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:22 PM
2 hrs ago

Smoking a cigarette, shirt unbuttoned halfway, really full of himself. He held his fingers a couple inches apart and asked, "How would you like a steak that's this thick?" I replied, "Not much, I'm vegetarian."

He just totally deflated and had no comeback. I've felt a twinge of guilt because it wasn't true, but really, more amused than anything.

hlthe2b

(115,262 posts)
8. Around here, it is more likely to be young evangelists from LDS or 7th Day Adventists or other...
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 12:57 PM
4 hrs ago

So, if she opens the door to them, they may still be there trying to "convert" her three days later... Beware! (they are quire earnest, I'll give them that)

Intractable

(2,609 posts)
9. The days of the proverbial Fuller Brush Man are long gone.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:00 PM
4 hrs ago

Nowadays, for most of us, it's potentially unsafe to open the door to strangers.

Even Fuller Brush does it mostly online now.

From Google:

Yes, the iconic door-to-door "Fuller Brush Man" is extremely rare, but a few independent dealers still make rounds in local neighborhoods.
The profession has largely transitioned online. You can purchase their signature cleaning supplies and personal care products directly through the Fuller Brush Company website or via Amazon.

Maru Kitteh

(32,114 posts)
10. It must be such a treat to be married to you, belittling and infantilizing your wife on DU.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:01 PM
4 hrs ago

Home ALONE? My goodness. How does the poor dear survive in the wild without your guidance? I just find it kind of gross that, because she has made a choice that is obviously way outside of your comfort zone, you’ve decided it’s because something about her daddy and she doesn’t understand the “real world” because you don’t live on an Air Force Base. How demeaning. Then you come to DU and berate her and make it clear when you explicitly state that “most people” wouldn’t need to take your advice because they presumably already know - but not your wife!

Just gross. Rethink this. See what you are doing here. Self-delete. That’s MY advice, Probably not needed by most people.

leftstreet

(41,392 posts)
32. I first thought it was going to be satire
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:18 PM
3 hrs ago

Like comparing the Trump Admin to door-to-door people, or something

TBF

(37,695 posts)
15. I live near a major city -
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:07 PM
4 hrs ago

the first thing I taught my kids was "we never open the door" unless it's friends/neighbors we know well.

kimbutgar

(27,742 posts)
16. I have an outer metal gate in front door with an atrium in the middle
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:14 PM
4 hrs ago

When sales people come I can open my door and still be safe from them and get rid of them quickly.

usonian

(27,250 posts)
17. Can't win anywhere by opening the door. And some non-advice.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:16 PM
4 hrs ago

Out in the woods, few people show, mainly because every house is heavily armed.

In the suburbs, the last person who knocked at the door was ... (story follows)

I was downstairs, and my wife was sitting on the stairs.

I heard the door knock, and said "I'm not opening it"

My wife said "It's OK"

It was a process-server from the court with divorce papers.

I never open the door for anyone.
(and bear spray is at the ready, for bears, though it makes a nice deterrent)


Now here's what NOT to do, unless you're into a certain lifestyle.

madinmaryland

(65,828 posts)
18. We've had a couple of vacuum cleaner guys around. The rest are
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:19 PM
4 hrs ago

Cable companies and utilities companies. Had a security contractor pester us a few time whe we moved into the place we are now.

Stacey Grove

(170 posts)
19. A lot of those outfits are scammy as fuck
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:22 PM
4 hrs ago

I don't answer the door.

Strangers are NOT invited, desired, or wanted.

Too many nutbars and shitbirds out there to take unsolicited offers.

Anything I do comes by referral from within my network.

LT Barclay

(3,233 posts)
21. The Pella guy was aggressive because their product is crap
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:25 PM
4 hrs ago

We have Pella Windows in our 2006 house. They are hard to close, harder to latch and don’t lock properly.
And our Pella sliding glass door has a dead wheel that can’t be replaced, so we have to install a new door for $2000 instead of replacing a $2 part.
The Champion sunroom is another horror story.

twodogsbarking

(19,912 posts)
22. They may ask you to sign their tablet just showing that they visited your house. If you do they will use the
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:27 PM
4 hrs ago

signature to do a credit check. They want to put a lien on your house. If you tell them you are not interested they will keep talking while closing the door. Tell them you can't talk now because your parole officer is in the house because you previously assaulted a door-to-door saleman. Anderson Renewal are the biggest pests. Have a wonderful day all int is 91 farenheit here Stay cool.

FakeNoose

(43,133 posts)
23. I feel bad for your wife, she was probably the only person who actually answered the door
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:29 PM
4 hrs ago

Most folks are either (A) not home during the day ... or (B) not gonna waste time talking to any door-to-door salespeople ... or (C) actually afraid to open the door because they might get robbed or molested.

If someone rings your doorbell and it's unexpected, you can be sure it's not a person you want to talk to.

Ohiya

(2,792 posts)
24. The best two dollars I've spent in while.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:32 PM
4 hrs ago

I ordered a "NO SOLICITING" sign from Home Depot. I got two stick on signs for less than two dollars and they delivered them for free the same day! I stuck one on the front door and it has worked like a charm.

llmart

(17,783 posts)
30. We have a No Soliciting sign at the entrance to our sub.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:13 PM
3 hrs ago

Also, our township has a No Soliciting without a permit from the township law. We still get the occasional salesperson and I always inform them that there is no soliciting in our sub or township unless they have a permit. Sometimes they get sneaky and say they have one, but I ask them to show it to me and then they say, "Well, it's in my truck and I have to go back and get it" to which I respond, "OK. I'll wait here for you to get it." Of course they never come back.

This doesn't happen when I open a door. In the good weather I'm almost always out in my yard so I can see them going house to house before they get to mine. After I do all this I call the condo board president on the other side of the sub from me and tell him there's a guy going door to door and I've already informed them they are to leave, but if you see them coming down your way tell them you are calling the township and reporting them. I live in a complex with mostly older people and people coming to your door just isn't safe but a lot of them are gullible or too trusting.

SeattleVet

(5,966 posts)
51. I have a No Soliciting sign just underneath my doorbell.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:34 PM
2 hrs ago

There is a door-to-door pest control 'subscription' company that goes through the neighborhood every year harassing homeowners and renters. "We're doing your next door neighbor and 8 other houses on the block. Ants around here are a real problem…yada yada". Online reviews of this company are abysmal - people sign up for a one year contract for quarterly service, and they either don't show up or come by and do an absolutely minimal job, and the contract has a massive cancellation fee buried in the fine print. There are dozens and dozens of reviews about them breaking local laws by ignoring the NO SOLICITING signs, but they never address that aspect and seem to encourage it.

First I ask to see their permit (which they are supposed to wear visibly on their clothing). Somehow it's always 'around the corner in the truck'. I point to the NO SOLICITING sign and tell them that I would NEVER consider hiring a pest control company with employees that are SO illiterate that they can't even understand a simple two-word sign, because there's obviously no way that they could possibly understand all of that complicated safe application information or MSDS information on the products they might be using.

allegorical oracle

(6,709 posts)
27. Another threat was covered by an AARP Bulletin story about a year ago. There
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 01:49 PM
3 hrs ago

have been women who live alone and they're followed while shopping at high-end grocery stores. The perps look for women wearing expensive clothing/jewelry, follow them out to the parking lot, and to their home. They come back later, break into the home to steal whatever is valuable. In at least two cases, the homeowners were killed.

Women have to stay vigilant.

Response to Trust_Reality (Original post)

Initech

(109,709 posts)
29. Nope. Don't let any sales people in the door. You cannot get rid of them.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:11 PM
3 hrs ago

Doesn't matter if it's in person, on the phone or online. Nope. Just show them the door and be done with it.

xuplate

(263 posts)
33. Huge red flag
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:19 PM
3 hrs ago

A reputable contractor doesn’t do business this way. They very probably would have taken a deposit check and never be heard from again.

LogDog75

(1,485 posts)
34. One way to stop them in their tracks is to ask for the city license/permit for sales
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:28 PM
3 hrs ago

Where I live, you have to have a license to do door-to-door sales. I've had people come to my door trying to sell something and I ask to see their license. Some have them and other don't but I tell them I'm not interested.

If you do express interest in buying contracting services, check with your state contractor licensing board for the following:
1. The classification of the business
2. Current contractor's license
3. Current bond with an insurance company
4. Current Workman's Compensation insurance

I was the president of our small 1-unit HOA and when I went out for bids I ask for their contractor license number so I could check them out.

Also, lowest bidder or highest bidder doesn't mean you get you're money's worth so weight each contractor carefully to ensure you're not overspending.

LeftInTX

(35,005 posts)
37. Maybe she just shouldn't be home when they return. Or just shoo them away.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:39 PM
3 hrs ago

If needed, be home with her.

Give her a script if necessary.

Just don't open the door to them again.

When we were first married, we fell for some people who came into our home (However, they were friends from church selling vacuum cleaners, water softeners, financial services, etc though, not door-to-door.. We would see them at church and they would invite themselves over other pretenses like "getting together for coffee".) It was a real pain. Basically, after that type of pitch, they were no longer our "friends". We cut them off. We were Catholic, but even in that circle there were also charismatic Catholics, who pull the same stuff with religion.

We were never scammed. Just wasted our time....

cab67

(3,939 posts)
38. We're lucky in one regard.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:39 PM
3 hrs ago

There's an active Facebook page for residents of our subdivision. That makes it easy for someone to ask if a given vendor or company is reliable, or even legitimate; or if they're reliable, if there are other companies that are just as reliable, but less expensive; or if a company is reliable, but a particular employee should be avoided.

We really don't get door-to-door salespeople here. We get flyers in our mailbox, which is just fine.

GoodRaisin

(11,204 posts)
40. I never answer the door for unannounced visitors or the phone for unknown callers.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 02:55 PM
2 hrs ago

My life stays simple and enjoyable that way.

moonshinegnomie

(4,165 posts)
46. i have a sign that says i charge $50 to listen to their pitch
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:18 PM
2 hrs ago

when i ask them for payment its amazing how fast they scurry away. I also tell them why would i buy from a company whos employees ignore no soliciting signs.


Ive actually called the company before and asked for an address and have send an invoice to them.

Raine

(31,270 posts)
49. I never ever open the door, they can ring the bell and knock on
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:22 PM
2 hrs ago

the door till their knuckles bleed .... I'm not opening the door!

Faux pas

(16,623 posts)
53. Growing up
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:58 PM
1 hr ago

in the 50's and 60's the Number One Rule was NEVER open the door to people you don't know. Those were much safer times, ya know?

hamsterjill

(17,975 posts)
54. I never answer the door nor the phone unless I know who it is.
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 04:06 PM
1 hr ago

And I'm not even nice to Jehovah Witnesses. I can speak to them through the door bell camera. They don't seem to like that.

usonian

(27,250 posts)
56. "Potential" doorbells (satire!)
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 04:23 PM
1 hr ago
GOOD


BETTER



BEST


FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY
DO NOT TRY ANY OF THESE AT HOME.

Rebl2

(18,011 posts)
57. Better yet
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 04:42 PM
1 hr ago

Don’t answer the door. That’s what I do, especially if I am home alone. If it’s someone I know, well they know better. Call me first.

orthoclad

(5,249 posts)
58. Captain Beefheart sold door-to-door
Wed Jul 1, 2026, 05:34 PM
10 min ago

from the Captain Beefheart wiki

Van Vliet enrolled at Antelope Valley College as an art major, but left after one year. He worked as a door-to-door vacuum cleaner salesman, and sold a vacuum cleaner to the writer Aldous Huxley at his home in Llano, pointing to it and declaring, "Well, I assure you sir, this thing sucks."[

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