I lost a longtime friend, over 10 years of being active buddies, due to my anti Trump statements and feelings.

[Brogrizzly]

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I don’t know what to say about this. He’s obviously pro-Trump. I’m venting to DU. Trying not to take anything personally, but Trump is a cancer upon this culture. I can not wait until he is gone from any cultural/sociological standpoint. The dustbin of history can not come fast enough.

[yardwork]

1. Bummer, and I understand.

I cut off all contact with a life-long friend, but tbh, that was long overdue. He was an obnoxious drunk who phoned and emailed really nasty attacks on my family and me, then he'd apologize, then do it again. After Trump came along this supposed paragon of progressive virtue really lost it and became openly racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. The day he defended the J6ers was my last straw. It's been nice not having that toxicity in my life.

However. I'll never feel the same way about some relatives since they became Trumpsters and that is sad. Makes family get togethers awkward.

[Brogrizzly]

3. Thank you. It's so frankly, just weird, to watch people you care about support what's happening. It breaks my brain.

[Wounded Bear]

2. Maybe you lost him because of his pro-trump stances...

Takes two to tango, and when people start behaving toxically, it pays to cut them out of your life.

My experience with trumpers is that they have a definite 'my way or the highway' attitude. On the highway at least you can get somewhere, usually their way leads to stagnation and bullshittery.

[Ritabert]

4. I've cut off one brother for the same thing.

I'm too old to put up with that nonsense.

[walkingman]

5. I understand - I have a friend that I have known for almost 50 years. He

does not live nearby, but we have kept in touch usually on at least a monthly basis. To be honest, I can hardly stand to talk to him because of his agreement or lack of concern about everything that is going on these days. It is pretty obvious he has the same narcistic traits of Trump - he basically only cares about himself and everyone else is not his problem. I just can't relate to that. Although I am too old to do much these days and luckily have been lucky enough that it will not affect me financially, it just sickens me to see what is happening to my State (Texas) and my country. I realize that Trump is not the cause of this, but rather represents a mindset that has been around all of my life, especially here in the South. But it still bothers me.
I also have issues with my own family and that really sucks. But I cannot just ignore it. It gives me guilt, but I just cannot make myself think this is OK. It's not by any measure.

[kimbutgar]

6. My husband lost a longtime friend from college because he pointed out to him that the orange Hitler

Is evil and doesn’t care about the American people. My husband sent him a detailed email with links and back up information and it angered the guy so much. The guy texted back to my husband to delete his number and never call or email him again.

I lost 2 friends in 2017 that I had known for over 30 years! They were both at my bachelorette party in 1989. I had fun times with both but they lost their minds.

[Montauk6]

7. It ain't Trump that's the cancer, Grizz

He's a major symptom, no doubt, just like Dubya was. No, it's a festering infection that's been corroding the body politics for too long now, contaminating the brains of folks like your ex-buddy.

[Brogrizzly]

9. Thanks for the thoughtful reply.

If I were to point to one thing specifically, it’s leftover vestiges of chattel slavery propaganda from colonial times. But I agree with you very much so.

[LisaM]

13. No, but he's an excuse.

I don't know why, but he is. He somehow allows people to act twice as awful and have half the filters they did with Reagan and Bush.

[Warpy]

8. Your friend is likely having a lot of doubts right now

which make him doubly efensive around you.

Have you tried eliminating politics as a topic of conversation? Remember, even if the fever has finally broken they are going to be loath to admit it to any of us. Nobody likes waiting for an "I told you so" even from those of us with too much class to say it.

[erodriguez]

10. It's sad. But it's life.

You have to have people around that you can trust.

I cut friends and family out of my life over their love for Trump. It's a shame they fell into that hole. But I'm not going to get dragged down with them.

[JHB]

11. Everybody is stupid sometimes, and just about everyone can be reliably stupid over cetain things. Con men rely on this.

They search out what makes people switch off the more rational parts of their brain and work the irrational parts. Addict them to it, if they can.

It's the business model of FOX News, Rush Limbaugh, and a host of grifters, including Taco Donnie himself.

[Paladin]

12. You did the same thing many of us have done. You did what was proper.

The pain lessens with time. Well done.

[Lasher]

14. Locking.

Please, no politics in the Lounge.