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MIButterfly

(3,706 posts)
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 08:09 PM Jul 8

I picked up Holly's ashes today

They're in a nice little wood box. I also got a little clay plate with her paw print and name on it. Sigh.

When I was leaving the house with my purse on my arm, I wondered "where am I going?" and then I remembered.

A friend called me to see how I'm doing and we had a nice chat.

Martini and I went went upstairs to get her medicine and instead of turning left to go into the bathroom, she turned right and started running, the little rascal! She made me laugh.

I called her "Holly" twice today.

And so it goes.

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I picked up Holly's ashes today (Original Post) MIButterfly Jul 8 OP
How nice to honor dear Holly. Nanuke Jul 8 #1
Thank you, Nanuke! MIButterfly Thursday #11
My condolences for your loss of Holly. Ocelot II Jul 8 #2
Thank you, Ocelot II! MIButterfly Thursday #12
Holly, you are now in a place of love 💕 forever. Polly Hennessey Jul 8 #3
Thank you, Polly Hennessey! MIButterfly Thursday #13
❤️ underpants Jul 8 #4
Thank you, underpants! MIButterfly Thursday #14
How sweet your little rascal made you laugh. I'm glad it goes. George McGovern Jul 8 #5
Thank you, George McGovern! MIButterfly Thursday #15
We recently had to have a cat put down. TomSlick Jul 8 #6
For what it might be worth, in a different thread about pet loss... 3catwoman3 Jul 8 #9
Thank you, 3catwoman3 MIButterfly Thursday #10
I'm so sorry for your loss, TomSlick MIButterfly Thursday #16
No. It does not. TomSlick Thursday #20
Martini worked her kitty magic to make you laugh. SheltieLover Jul 8 #7
Thank you, SheltieLover! MIButterfly Thursday #17
💞 SheltieLover Thursday #19
Hugs to you and Martini MIButterfly JMCKUSICK Jul 8 #8
Thank you, JMCKUSICK! MIButterfly Thursday #18

Ocelot II

(132,096 posts)
2. My condolences for your loss of Holly.
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 08:28 PM
Jul 8

I have a few of those little boxes and pawprint plaques, too. It's hard...

TomSlick

(13,179 posts)
6. We recently had to have a cat put down.
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 08:59 PM
Jul 8

For the first time, I decided that I'm past digging pet graves.

We had the little guy cremated. I had every intention of burying the urn using a post hole digger. Now I can't bring myself to do so. The little urn is pretty and doesn't take up much room on a shelf. I'm getting sentimental in my old age.

3catwoman3

(30,417 posts)
9. For what it might be worth, in a different thread about pet loss...
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 09:31 PM
Jul 8

...a few days ago, I shared this idea on terminology -

"In our family, we have chosen to call this most difficult decision "liberating the spirit."

I came up with the idea because it has a gentler feel to it than all the other usual terms. Put to sleep isn't accurate - we wish they were only sleeping. Euthanize sounds cold and clinical. Put down sounds harsh.

It helps a little.

Please know this is not criticism, just a thought that I found to be a bit of a balm to a grieving heart.

MIButterfly

(3,706 posts)
10. Thank you, 3catwoman3
Thu Jul 9, 2026, 09:48 PM
Thursday

I like liberating the spirit much better.

Your kindness is appreciated.


TomSlick

(13,179 posts)
20. No. It does not.
Thu Jul 9, 2026, 11:00 PM
Thursday

I tell myself that the price we pay for our pet's love is their shorter life span. The love justifies the grief.

SheltieLover

(83,361 posts)
7. Martini worked her kitty magic to make you laugh.
Wed Jul 8, 2026, 09:27 PM
Jul 8

Please be very gentle with yourself as you heal.

Healing vibes on the way to you & Martini.

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