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Warren DeMontague

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16. I agree with both your points, there.

Fri May 31, 2013, 04:56 AM

May 2013

What I saw on the OKCupid tumblr was some of what you mention, and an equal measure of simply bagging on professed "nice guys" because someone, somewhere, decided that any use of that particular turn of phrase was an excuse to set off the klaxon car-alarm. "SQUARRRRRRK LOOK! A NICE GUY™ SQUAAAARRRRRRK"

Like, look at these asshole "nice guys" who get paraphrased as "I'm a nice guy, why won't a hot woman have sex with me" -- HOLY SHIT, HE THINKS HES ENTITLED HARUMPH HARUMPH.

I agree that it's silly for an obvious asshole- like some of the ones you mention- to profess to be a "nice guy", but I also don't agree that every goober who uses the expression "I'm a nice guy" is automatically an asshole.

And again, sure- maybe. And maybe he's deluded. Or maybe he should broaden his horizons. But no more so than the overweight woman who grumbles to her online echo chamber about how "the patriarchy" has programmed men (or, at least, the men who meet her qualifications, whatever they may be) to not want overweight women.

If Mr Dreaded Nice Guy™ feels "entitled" to something, then so does she.

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Where are the photos about the beauty of fat men? [View all] Bonobo May 2013 OP

DiFi... discntnt_irny_srcsm May 2013 #1

My guess is if it's Rachel, she was being goofy with a slight hint of mockery ProudToBeBlueInRhody May 2013 #2

To be fair, 6'8" is pretty damn tall for anyone not in the NBA. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #3

And triple EEE breasts are pretty big Bonobo May 2013 #5

True dat. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #6

Yes, there is more than a little mean-spiritedness to it. Bonobo May 2013 #7

Seems to me - and this has been borne out through repeated gibberish-laden blog posts - Warren DeMontague May 2013 #8

We want men to be the way we want them! Bonobo May 2013 #9

Any time people come up with THE ONE GREAT EXPLANATION FOR WHAT'S WRONG Warren DeMontague May 2013 #13

No shortage of cruelty in this world. Nearly all of it, in my mind, completely unnecessary. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #15

I agree with both your points, there. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #16

I suppose there are things we should all feel "entitled" to - respect, dignity, some sort nomorenomore08 May 2013 #17

I speculate Gore1FL May 2013 #4

Men being less insecure... Bonobo May 2013 #10

I meant that first part as sarcasm Gore1FL May 2013 #11

I agree mostly. nt Bonobo May 2013 #12

At the risk of a sweeping generalization, I think women are judged by their appearance more so nomorenomore08 May 2013 #14

I would say that the ramifications of the judgment are different. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #18

Women judge other women by their appearance as much as men do, if not more Major Nikon Jun 2013 #19

You may be right. As I said, it's hard to generalize. nomorenomore08 Jun 2013 #20

Post removed Post removed Jun 2013 #21

I think this thread is a response to the campaign to improve the prospects of overweight women Major Nikon Jun 2013 #22

LBN post "obesity is a disease". Since other poster's post hidden, added on to yours. uppityperson Jun 2013 #23