I had a very prominent avowedly (according to him) very pro-woman DUer turn me down -- after reading his glowing tho brief pro-woman testimonial -- when I asked him via PM to jump into some of the worst of the sexist DU threads and support women that way. He was actually a little huffy about it too. "I don't have time," was his excuse, but I saw it as just that: an excuse. I didn't ask him to dominate any threads, I asked him to weigh in with at least ONE post on such threads. The strong sense I had was that he didn't want to lose his approval rating among DUers here by siding with the females.
Because men bond with each other via sexism, you see. And if he'd step into such a thead, he'd lose some of his credibility with the men.
I could be wrong, of course, but I'm asking YOU to examine your deepest of hearts to see what the real reason is that you hold back when you see women being bullied, battered, mocked and ridiculed and LOSING, and you just watch.
We women will NEVER win until we have more male allies actually stepping forward to make it clear that sexism is EVERYBODY's business and EVERYBODY's burden.
Btw, I found some really startling but heavy-duty revelations/ insights in your OP. Thanks.
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