My husband was married once before, when he was young and foolish, and fresh out of the Air Force Academy back in the late 60s, well before it became co-ed. He had little experience with women, it was a rebound relationship for both, and the marriage did not last particularly long - 7 years, including the necessary year of being formally separated. The son and daughter from that marriage were only 5 and 2 when things ended. The tipping point was her having an affair with a an Air Force officer while both couples were stationed at the Academy, and keeping a diary about it, which she left out for him to find. Rather like that sappy song by Bread. A real chicken-shit way to go about it.
She has been married 3 additional times. Found them all thru her church's divorce support group, and big wedding and reception each time. #4 seems to have finally been the right one.
I did not meet my husband until 2 years after the divorce, so had nothing to do with that marriage ending. The trauma of the divorce certainly hindered the development of our relationship. I can't stand the bitch. She has to know that I know about the diary, but once told my husband that she would "feel better" about me if I were warmer toward her.
The daughter from that marriage, who is now 48, is getting married next October. She has done things in a rather unconventional pattern. Met her man on-line. They decided they were right for each other and wanted to have a baby together. She got pregnant, they bought a house together, then got engaged. Their child is now 7, and they are finally making it official. I have my suspicions that her mother's track record has been the major factor in how she has done things. Why wouldn't it be?
I've not seen this woman in probably 30 years now, and am not particularly looking forward to seeing her at the wedding. She's very righteous and born-again, and thinks she is just this wonderful person, and that all is well with the world because she has been forgiven by gawd. She better not try to hug me.
I hope my husband outlives her. I hope I do, too. I do wonder how he will feel if she dies first.
Sorry for the long ramble.
= new reply since forum marked as read