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bif

(26,867 posts)
23. There's no way I'm going to tell people not to drink
Fri Nov 28, 2025, 11:46 AM
Nov 2025

This is my road I've chosen to travel on. My wife still drinks and we have plenty of booze around the house. We chose to host Thanksgiving, and with that comes drinking. As I mentioned, I've been sober for over 7 years and it's only occasionally that I face a bit of a challenge. Getting through it in my own way only makes me stronger.

Actually last night was a little amusing. Almost everyone left around 8, but her brother and S-I-L stayed until almost 11. My wife ended up getting a bit plastered and she kept on yammering. It was a bit of a reminder of the way I used to be at the end of the night. Actually, almost every night for several years.

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Can't believe your family would do that! jmbar2 Nov 2025 #1
Sorry you had a difficult day yesterday democrank Nov 2025 #2
You did it! Proud of you! ZDU Nov 2025 #3
Congratulations, well done, in a difficult situation. enough Nov 2025 #4
I'm proud of you, Bif, for your awareness & for removing yourself SheltieLover Nov 2025 #5
You showed great courage keeping yourself apart from it. Diamond_Dog Nov 2025 #6
Well done. NewHendoLib Nov 2025 #7
Excellent! mdbl Nov 2025 #8
Good job not drinking Farmer-Rick Nov 2025 #9
You did well WmChris Nov 2025 #10
My hat is off to you. Hope22 Nov 2025 #11
You showed incredible strength and resolve Grim Chieftain Nov 2025 #12
So glad you got thru it. My addiction was cigarettes Joinfortmill Nov 2025 #13
Congratulations Big, JMCKUSICK Nov 2025 #14
... Clouds Passing Nov 2025 #15
The real point is that you shouldn't have had to. justaprogressive Nov 2025 #16
My friend's uncle had to really put his foot down over this. cab67 Nov 2025 #19
I have such empathy for you in that situation because I've been there. llmart Nov 2025 #17
That last sentence really hit home for me, too. Collimator Nov 2025 #25
Congratulations!!! We'll be in that situation at Christmas w/ my husband's family for the first time ever. RamblingRose Nov 2025 #18
I stopped cold turkey on February 17, 1995. 634-5789 Nov 2025 #20
Stay encouraged, bif. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Nov 2025 #21
Good for you! Yah, that's got to be difficult. nt Exp Nov 2025 #22
There's no way I'm going to tell people not to drink bif Nov 2025 #23
I came to love NA beer for things like this IbogaProject Nov 2025 #24
I did have a Good Times IPA last night bif Nov 2025 #26
Anything except O'Douls and Bud Zero are ok to good IbogaProject Nov 2025 #27
Heinekin Zero is also excellent bif Nov 2025 #28
My sister died of alcoholism pfitz59 Nov 2025 #29
Congratulations on making it through that bif. I'm sure KPN Nov 2025 #30
My BF's son is having an alcohol problem right now AKwannabe Nov 2025 #31
It's sad that holidays require you to be a superhero soldierant Nov 2025 #32
The single most important thing to remember is that you didn't drink. MissouriDem47 Nov 2025 #33
I don't want to sound judgmental but ... FakeNoose Nov 2025 #34
I don't think that's what he wants. LisaM Nov 2025 #35
The "alcohol gene" seems to be a real disposition to becoming adicted. I hope more is researched. RFK will be on it. Evolve Dammit Nov 2025 #36
I must have the mirror image of that gene DFW Nov 2025 #43
It's great you never missed it! Evolve Dammit Nov 2025 #44
I Recently Joined A Group For Help In Recovery. I Commend You... ColoringFool Nov 2025 #37
This message was self-deleted by its author Stacey Grove Nov 2025 #38
Congratulations on getting through Thanksgiving. Keep taking those timeouts. SunSeeker Nov 2025 #39
Kudos to you MustLoveBeagles Nov 2025 #40
You did the right thing, getting away from it, even if only for brief periods. calimary Nov 2025 #41
hey you did great Skittles Nov 2025 #42
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