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Mental Health Support

Marcus IM

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5. My mother used to do stuff like that too. I learned to minimize the personal info exchanges.

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Wed Jul 5, 2023, 11:09 PM

Jul 2023

My siblings would confide serious and deeply personal things to my mother, only to have her tell the other children. I warned them. They didn't learn. I know things about them that I NEVER wanted to know and I'm sure they didn't want me to know.

As others have said. You own what you did, and that was kindness. Don't take involuntarily ownership of other people's issues and bad traits.

All the best to you.
Big hug.

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I am very mad. On Sunday, I ordered a teddy bear, balloons and chocolates for my sister who has [View all] debm55 Jul 2023 OP

You are not responsible for what others do. Eko Jul 2023 #1

Thank you, Eko. My family has a habit of not consoling, helping anyone in the extended family then debm55 Jul 2023 #3

I'm sure there are worse out there Eko Jul 2023 #6

I was physically, sexually (by my grandmother) told by father with a hunting rifle in his hand that debm55 Jul 2023 #8

I feel for both you and your sister. Eko Jul 2023 #9

You tried to do a kind and loving thing. madaboutharry Jul 2023 #2

Thank you madaboutharry. My sister got a card from my husband's sister. My sister got the card on debm55 Jul 2023 #4

My mother used to do stuff like that too. I learned to minimize the personal info exchanges. Marcus IM Jul 2023 #5

All good advice here, dem. Deuxcents Jul 2023 #7

I am so sorry deb. irisblue Jul 2023 #10