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HereSince1628

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12. Well, I may have problems, but it isn't JUST ME

Fri Apr 26, 2013, 07:46 PM

Apr 2013

My deceased brother's twin called me today. He had spoken with his deceased twin's significant other as well as the deceased twin's sons.

They seem to agree that although there is no will, my brother wanted cremation. They also agree that a) they don't want to be the ones to pay for the cremation and b) none of them wanted to deal with the ashes.

The cremation is estimated at $2800. The funeral home has permission to "spread the ashes in a swampy area" not far from Conway SC.

He moved from the midwest to SC to be with the SO. They lived together for 8 years, never got married. She wants nothing to do with the funerary issues, including final disposition of his ashes, but she's wondering about his property in Illinois.

His sons are from the 1st of 4 marriages. The boys want to know what the status is for his Corvette apparently part of the 'property' in Illinois, but they also don't have any interest in funerary issues and don't care about what happens to his remains.

Hmmph!

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Got a call yesterday evening, that a brother had killed himself and I don't care [View all] HereSince1628 Apr 2013 OP

No one is inside your skin but you. annabanana Apr 2013 #1

Yes, I'd agree that my sense of normal is mine HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #4

I hear you. dixiegrrrrl Apr 2013 #2

I can't speak to any pathologies. I don't know you. postatomic Apr 2013 #3

You've touched on part of what is curious to me... I usually can recognize a personal tragedy HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #5

. libodem Apr 2013 #6

Personally I think the idea that you HAVE to love your relatives is just another tool people use... Locut0s Apr 2013 #7

Some of the last things that were said to me in session, I pretty strongly rejected HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #8

To whom does the therapist owe allegience ??????? olddots Apr 2013 #9

Thing of it is...I think therapy helps some people, I don't want to say it doesn't HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #10

Who knows the agenda behind their opinions ??????????? olddots Apr 2013 #11

Well, I may have problems, but it isn't JUST ME HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #12

sounds like you might have good reason to cut him out of your life. mopinko Apr 2013 #14

i don't quite know that i can completely relate fizzgig Apr 2013 #13

I have relatives that I feel and have felt that way about Tobin S. Apr 2013 #15

Thanks, I'm not sure it's a matter of lonliness but rather doubt about self-awareness HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #16