Got antagonized today...

[JayhawkSD]

18. You managed to completely miss the point.

Whether the guy driving the car cut me off on purpose or not is irrelevant. The anger that exists within me cannot be cured by the guy driving the car. Nothing he can now do would make my anger go away. It is up to me to deal with what is going on inside me.

The guy who made the remark does not know what goes on inside your head. He made a remark. What you do with it is your choice. If he made it deliberately, then it's still your choice what to do with it. If he knows what your issue is and deliberately made the remark to hurt you, then it's still your choice what to do with it.

You went into an emotional death spiral not because he made the remark, but because you chose to go into an emotional death spiral. Make a better choice.

I know, I'm not being nice. When I first got sober I had a sponsor who told me the truth. He told me he could make me feel better in a bad moment by being nice, but that it would not help me grow if he did. He asked me if I wanted to be patted on the head or if I wanted something that would help me grow and would help me manage a similar problem better in the future.

People say stuff. What you do with it on on you.