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Envirogal

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11. Very catholic with guilt a driving force
Tue Sep 23, 2025, 10:01 AM
Sep 23

I was also “single issue voter” pro-life. Started dating a very worldly and smart guy, which was thrilling given I was living in a Midwest bubble town where sameness was the natural state of things. (I think I was 12 before I realized there were people that weren’t Catholic out there.)

He was an agnostic atheist, and I had never heard of such blasphemy. I pondered whether he was a devil worshiper because I had no reference point. I drilled him on various issues and his answers always were way more sensible than even my questions! As our relationship blossomed, I started to question things more. The ice started a slow thaw.

And then I got pregnant early on in our relationship. Then I became the biggest hypocrite and got an abortion. The fact that I was able to do that shook me to my core— I never wanted kids but that was overshadowed by my steadfast belief….until I needed one. I felt incredibly sick on how much I judged others and that was when the floodgates came on questioning everything, researching, and atoning for my hypocrisy. I thought if could do that maybe my faith might be masking other truths?

The final straw came when I was on a long trip to Europe and saw all the wealth of churches (built on slave labor), even in small villages. Went to the Vatican and saw the outdated misogyny of the Swiss Guards not saluting the nuns when they did the priests. And on and on.

I never looked back. The religious Reich in this country has only made my conviction stronger. I truly believe that deep religious thought that lanes political is for naïve people and easily broken once you can pop the bubble.

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Raised Jewish by agnostic parents. no_hypocrisy Sep 22 #1
Robert Oppenheimer, as you may know, was in the ethical culture movement as a child. NNadir Sep 22 #2
Religious upbringing trueblueinmo Sep 22 #3
Raised catholic got wise Faux pas Sep 22 #4
Agnostic here.... anciano Sep 22 #5
I decided years ago SCantiGOP Sep 23 #22
I appreciate you taking the time to respond... anciano Sep 23 #23
Fundamental markie Sep 22 #6
attended baptist church as a kid, didnt pay much attention to the religion part tho nt msongs Sep 22 #7
Not religious at all - just moral Nigrum Cattus Sep 22 #8
I was raised Universalist oberle Sep 22 #9
I have 13 years of perfect attendance pins from my small, rural Methodist church. sinkingfeeling Sep 22 #10
Very catholic with guilt a driving force Envirogal Sep 23 #11
I did... GiqueCee Sep 23 #12
My sig line in this post, from Max Born's Nobel Prize speech.. NNadir Sep 23 #13
Ah, yes! GiqueCee Sep 23 #14
It turns out that it's not from his Nobel Prize speech but is found in his autobiography. NNadir Sep 23 #21
Priests and nuns were mean, especially to kids that needed some help. First grade I had my doubts. twodogsbarking Sep 23 #15
My wife experienced that and concurs. NNadir Sep 23 #20
Raised in a very liberal Southern Baptist church wysimdnwyg Sep 23 #16
I never believed any of it mike_c Sep 23 #17
I grew up in the Vancouver area of Canada. pandr32 Sep 23 #18
Raised Catholic; was even an altar boy for a short time. SeattleVet Sep 23 #19
12 years of Catholic schools and parents that purported to be very religious rurallib Sep 24 #24
Southern Baptist GigiLeigh Sep 24 #25
My oldest son nearly went insane from reading that book. NNadir Sep 24 #27
Raised Catholic. Family still is. Went to Catholic school 12 years. Srkdqltr Sep 24 #26
I was raised as an American Baptist (supposedly more liberal than Southern Baptist), we could dance and play cards.. wcmagumba Sep 24 #28
It started with something my Mother said when I was 5 or 6 yo ... we attended a Southern Baptist church ... eppur_se_muova Tuesday #29
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