My Dad died

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4. Keep breathing.

Seriously, there is no "dealing with" yet.
Just. Keep. Breathing.

Let yourself be a mess. This cultural "be strong" message we get is bullshit. An awful thing happened. Being a mess is appropriate.

Dealing will come later. The next few days are going to be crazy - people to call, details to take care of, arrangements to make. The shock usually cushions us through that part, and many of us later can't remember the first week or two after the death very clearly.

Try to remember to eat, at least enough to keep your blood sugar from plummeting. Stay hydrated. If other people offer to do specific things, let them.

And keep breathing.



DLO