Bereavement

orleans

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13. how long has it been since your mom passed?

Sun Oct 11, 2015, 04:20 AM

Oct 2015

i read your first line & burst into tears.

seems i go through "okay" times & then i have this downward spiral that i do.

monday will be six years ago my mom went into the hospital. closer to the end of the month will be six years since she's been "gone"

you're right about that "time heals" business. i would ask "how much time?"

my friend recently asked me something to the effect of "doesn't remembering those good things make you happy?" (regarding my mom & various things). i told him it makes me sad because those happy times are gone & it makes me sad because she's not present in my life like she was. (always a glass half empty person i guess)

i just miss her so damn much, kesha. i miss her so much.
it's as if nothing is right, and nothing is very good, and (as she used to say about certain things) nothing means anything.

hope you're doing okay.

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Tonight I got some very good news.......and now I'm sad. [View all] CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 OP

My dear, Peggy. It will ease. Wilms Oct 2015 #1

I sure am. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #2

It is tough, Peggy, when we murielm99 Oct 2015 #3

Thank you. I expect it will... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #4

I wish I had ohheckyeah Oct 2015 #5

Just having you talk to me helps so much, my dear ohheckyeah... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #6

I think losing joy ohheckyeah Oct 2015 #7

It does suck. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #8

Good point. ohheckyeah Oct 2015 #9

The pain will ease. Paka Oct 2015 #10

Still to this very day when I receive news of any kind one of my first thoughts auntAgonist Oct 2015 #11

Thank you...the good memories do help. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #12

how long has it been since your mom passed? orleans Oct 2015 #13

It seems like yesterday some days but in reality it's been a lifetime ago. 1997 August 23rd. auntAgonist Oct 2015 #16

tell him, peggy--say it out loud & talk about it orleans Oct 2015 #14

Sometimes I do talk to him, as though he were here...but I sure feel silly! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #15

"Beauty without the beloved is like a sword through the heart" NCarolinawoman Oct 2015 #17

That is a beautiful saying, and thank you for showing it to me. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #18

I talk to my Dad. ohheckyeah Oct 2015 #19