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Bereavement

CountAllVotes

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47. I had a younger brother that died

Reply to imavoter (Reply #46)

Mon Jul 18, 2022, 02:32 PM

Jul 2022

He died at the age of 44 of cancer.

I was rather numb after he died. We weren't particularly close.

It took me a long time to realize he was gone.

I finally cried for him about 5 years after his death.

Why? I just don't know why.

I guess it is different for everyone.

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When do you ever stop crying? [View all] CountAllVotes Jul 2022 OP

I'm so sorry for your loss. piddyprints Jul 2022 #1

Thanks CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #3

I can't even imagine. piddyprints Jul 2022 #5

So very sorry snowybirdie Jul 2022 #2

You're crying will just become less frequent randr Jul 2022 #4

I'm so sorry. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #6

I don't think now is the time to be making a lot of legal decisions CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #15

I'm 64 and very much alone also. My cousin is my medical POA. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #21

You need to find a grief counselor. Ask for help. It's normal to grieve, but you sinkingfeeling Jul 2022 #7

Loving prayers of condolence madashelltoo Jul 2022 #8

So deeply saddened by your loss. SheltieLover Jul 2022 #9

I had an appt. CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #16

So sorry to hear this! 💔 SheltieLover Jul 2022 #18

How about trying a regular therapist? Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #33

a few weeks CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #34

Sounds like you have been under a great deal of stress for a long time. Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #37

I have to go to the doctor all of the time CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #38

Yes please check with your doctor to get some assistance. Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #39

It was so obvious CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #40

I hear this kind of story all too often. Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #45

I'm so sorry. Phoenix61 Jul 2022 #10

Hugs to you. Be kind to yourself. onecaliberal Jul 2022 #11

My condolences Tetrachloride Jul 2022 #12

I'm so sorry for your loss, kozar Jul 2022 #13

Perfect advice 👆👆 essaynnc Jul 2022 #20

I am exhausted CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #35

CAV, I am still beyond exhausted as well kozar Jul 2022 #36

I just got up CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #41

Loss is huge.. Please remember in your heart (not your brain) LakeArenal Jul 2022 #14

From our President: Bayard Jul 2022 #17

17 years ago last month. I lost my boyfriend of 30 years Walleye Jul 2022 #19

Thank you CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #42

There is only one medication that works. bluescribbler Jul 2022 #22

Consider joining a grief support group.... Jade Fox Jul 2022 #23

The biggest loss I went through was with my mother, so it's not the same. pnwmom Jul 2022 #24

My mother was put on antidepressants after Dad died CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #43

I took them for a time, at another point of my life. They made me feel pnwmom Jul 2022 #44

Virtual hugs to you. Tom Yossarian Joad Jul 2022 #25

Sorry for your loss. Stuart G Jul 2022 #26

When I joined the US Army in my 50s with no prior service (2006), majdrfrtim Jul 2022 #27

My condolences Leith Jul 2022 #28

Take it one day at a time, we all grieve differently. When you get iluvtennis Jul 2022 #29

I'm so sorry. live love laugh Jul 2022 #30

I'm so sorry cate94 Jul 2022 #31

Peace will come. I hope you find it soon. Gore1FL Jul 2022 #32

I cry very litte, but my pain is real. imavoter Jul 2022 #46

I had a younger brother that died CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #47

I'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Jul 2022 #48

thank you CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #49