grieving a suicide death of my son

[yellowdogintexas]

71. for me it was my father in 1981. I actually attended two survivor

groups. One was just a few years after his death, and my mother & I went together. It was so helpful to talk with others who have walked that road. Some were newly bereaved and some had experienced their loss many years ago. Those "old timers" said that it was always good to be with others because no one can really comprehend what it is like if they have not experienced it.

The second group was maybe 10 -12 years ago. My church was forming this group and I decided to attend at least one meeting mainly to reassure the newly grieving Survivors that it does get better As it turned out I was still able to benefit from that group; we bonded immediately and were really there for each other.

Even the grief process is different. Ours is two-pronged. We have the loss itself, which most people can identify with, but we also have the circumstances which only we can identify with.

Now, is it too soon for you to get out and do something, anything? Absolutely not! If you feel it is the right thing for you to do, then do it. I can't think of a better way than helping Beto and all our other nominees win their races.

You will make new friends and even find some skills you did not know you had!


There are no set rules on when things are too soon after a loss, because not everyone's emotions and reactions are the same.

My very heartfelt sympathy and love