Elder mother-in-law refuses to move to assisted living

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13. I had to

put my parents in a nursing home this year. I’m not well myself, and with the help of my husband we started talking to them last year about moving into assisted living. They could no longer care for their home and they wouldn’t let anyone come in and clean etc. My mom was still somewhat in her right mind when she realized how much of a toll it was taking on my husband and me. Unfortunately she became much worse at the beginning of this year and my dad, while my mom was in the hospital, fell and ended up there too. They had to go into nursing care at a nursing home. It’s not cheap and they will eventually have to go on Medicaid.

I guess my point is, if you have to, go to a lawyer and get something done. We went to an elder law firm and they have been a great help to us. Your mother in-law isn’t going to get better. Tell her what a toll it is taking on your family. Maybe that will get through to her she needs to move to assisted living. Let her know you aren’t going to move her there and abandon her and that you will come see her. Good luck.