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summer_in_TX

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61. Nursing homes in a number of places are tremendously difficult to get a relative out of.

Tue Dec 9, 2025, 12:59 AM

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My friend's dad broke his hip in a fall. After the surgery and initial recovery he went to a nursing home in my town. It took a week before a wound care specialist looked at his bedsores that he had arrived with. They told his daughter he had dementia, but couldn't prove he actually had it by referring to any test. (He seemed quite lucid in our visits.)

He kept losing weight, no appetite, had trouble keeping food down.

When he declared he wanted to be moved to another facility, that evening they started him on a new medication that they claimed was to help his loss of appetite. When I read up, it caused passivity and brain fog. Some people's appetite did improve, but mostly not. He did a medical power of attorney naming her, but they refused to honor it.

He developed pneumonia while there. Someone told the daughter, but others denied it. Only when he went to have his sutures out did someone finally document the pneumonia and they finally moved him to a hospital. His daughter made very sure he didn't go back there.

Shockingly I am in agreement with the daughter that they were determined to keep him there for the insurance and medicare payments, against his best interests and against his will and his daughter's.

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Sadistic Trump Admin Rescinds Min Staffing Rules for Nursing Homes [View all] CousinIT Dec 8 OP

RFK Jr.: "Kill them all" dalton99a Dec 8 #1

Trump: deport them all, new & improved now with elders Attilatheblond Dec 8 #22

Hi whathehell Dec 8 #29

If that's the case, what in the hell does homeland security have to do with nursing homes?! slightlv Dec 8 #35

It's HHS E. Normus Dec 8 #37

Isn't kegsbreath the one blowing people out of the water down south? slightlv Dec 8 #45

Lol..No, what I mentioned was the Dept of HHS, whathehell Dec 8 #44

Nah... the person above my initial reply mentioned hegsbreth... slightlv Dec 8 #47

Upon further review... whathehell Tuesday #73

We can mix and match the phrases IbogaProject Dec 8 #49

Not when you use quote marks whathehell Dec 8 #57

True I didnt consider the quotes IbogaProject Tuesday #64

You're very welcome.. whathehell Tuesday #72

I think that markodochartaigh Dec 8 #56

Sure, let them fall and break their hips. It'll Ilsa Dec 8 #2

As if the POS who told America Covid was a 'hoax' B.See Dec 8 #54

I will leave. Maru Kitteh Dec 8 #3

Do many States have their own staffing requirements? Hugin Dec 8 #7

Understand that these changes are requested by nursing home owners, including private equity Prairie Gates Dec 8 #4

ANOTHER economic sector that private equity has DESTROYED, along with... CousinIT Dec 8 #6

+1 leftstreet Dec 8 #12

Many of these Re-hab places popsdenver Dec 8 #42

Yep.this Iris Tuesday #65

If You Have Someone in a Nursing Home or Other Care Facility, MineralMan Dec 8 #5

Very true. I cared for moonscape Dec 8 #34

I'm basically in the same situation as you, moonscape... slightlv Dec 8 #40

Yep. OldBaldy1701E Tuesday #67

Because the cruelty is the point, is it not? Hey Joe Dec 8 #8

Profit is the point: cruelty is the necessary condition for it Prairie Gates Dec 8 #10

The Nazi's referred to anyone who couln't contribute to their vision of society as useless eaters. patphil Dec 8 #18

Or "NPCs" in modern parlance. Pinback Dec 8 #23

More disgusting, dangerous, heartless policies from fucking jr. spanone Dec 8 #9

The billionaires are demanding our collective blood for Maru Kitteh Dec 8 #11

DURec leftstreet Dec 8 #13

This is hell! applegrove Dec 8 #14

At the rate they are deporting people they will have to decrease staffing in nursing homes. Biophilic Dec 8 #15

That's the first thing that occurred to me. 70sEraVet Dec 8 #24

It's the damn money, always the money. Biophilic Dec 8 #38

Yes... but to be a bit more specific... slightlv Dec 8 #41

Yes, you're so right. Greed. Biophilic Dec 8 #55

What everyone else said jfz9580m Dec 8 #16

Profit over people Stuckinthebush Dec 8 #17

Cruelty.. Beowulf42 Dec 8 #19

They are going way too fucking far. This entire admin needs to be removed now! Initech Dec 8 #20

GOP wants to kill seniors. It was their death panels all along. bronxiteforever Dec 8 #21

This is just a continuation of GOP policies from the past. llmart Dec 8 #31

They are now getting to what they have wanted all along. Scalded Nun Dec 8 #25

Fractures bucolic_frolic Dec 8 #26

It will also cause deaths. Beck23 Dec 8 #27

This is sickening Wiz Imp Dec 8 #28

Gee, who could see this kind of shit coming? orangecrush Dec 8 #30

Trump only cares about one thing undergrounddemsunite Dec 8 #32

Of course there are conflicts of interest and almost certainly "investment opportunities" involved. hay rick Dec 8 #33

And when MAGA goes to visit Nana who will Figarosmom Dec 8 #36

They will blame Democrats like they are programmed to do. hadEnuf Dec 8 #60

Trump was trained by birth to be a slum landlord, providing the minimum of support and charging the maximum possible. Martin68 Dec 8 #39

Well, this is just yet another reason for Americans to vote every single republicon out of office bluestarone Dec 8 #43

Well, they're not professionals anymore! William Seger Dec 8 #46

There a few words Profit simply doesn't pair well with, Health being one of them Torchlight Dec 8 #48

Nothing good about this, but we made it until Spring 2024 without those rules. Hopefully, we can do something after Silent Type Dec 8 #50

It's his holiday gift to Private Equity C_U_L8R Dec 8 #51

Known as the "Let Granny Lay in Her Shitty Diaper" act. And it's only Monday. Vinca Dec 8 #52

Kill those old people, they are worthless eaters. Irish_Dem Dec 8 #53

Are you fuckin kidding me? yellow dahlia Dec 8 #58

Personnel cost is the largest expense for nursing homes. TomSlick Dec 8 #59

Nursing homes in a number of places are tremendously difficult to get a relative out of. summer_in_TX Tuesday #61

This is more of the GQP's war on women. love_katz Tuesday #62

Yet another example of lets kill off the senior citizens so they don't deplete the SS trust fund as we the (Rs) intend usaf-vet Tuesday #63

States should ensure they have a floor. Hopefully, most already have one ... JustABozoOnThisBus Tuesday #66

Those staffing ratios are so hard won and he just throws them away. travelingthrulife Tuesday #68

I am in a nursing home and understaffing is a real problem already! tblue37 Tuesday #69

Horror Dear_Prudence Tuesday #70

Next on their list is childcare staffing rules BlueWaveNeverEnd Tuesday #71