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patphil

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29. Even at 95 years old, and having years to prepare, I know it will be hard to deal with.
Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:31 PM
Sunday

I saw my mother slowly die from cancer, and felt relieved for her when she finally transitioned. But, that didn't make it any easier for me to deal with.
Life does go on, and love will always be there for you. Remember, she's left you, but isn't gone. She will always remain in your heart, and in your memories.
Love,

Patphil

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Coming your way. It's tough losing a loved one. Be at peace, also. CurtEastPoint Sunday #1
Thank you. She's at peace, so I can be Maeve 18 hrs ago #84
That sucks, even when it's expected. buzzycrumbhunger Sunday #2
It does, indeed, suck. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #85
Sending you strength... Drum Sunday #3
Appreciated. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #86
My sincere condolences, Miss Maeve. 💐 Deuxcents Sunday #4
Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #87
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Sunday #5
Thank you and hugs back Maeve 18 hrs ago #88
Your mother Clouds Passing Sunday #6
I will, thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #89
My dear Maeve UpInArms Sunday #7
I wish I could say how much that means to me. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #90
My sincere condolences, Maeve. greatauntoftriplets Sunday #8
Appreciated, a chara Maeve 18 hrs ago #91
Deepest sympathy Maeve malaise Sunday #9
Thank you. I knew I'd get group hugs here! Maeve 18 hrs ago #92
One more malaise 18 hrs ago #98
💔☮️🌺🌻🕯️🕊️💜 Cha Sunday #10
It was expected yet so sudden at the end. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #93
I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Sunday #11
That is exactly the right phrase for an Irish wake. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #94
Take care of yourself. Hugs. Srkdqltr Sunday #12
Appreciated. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #95
I'm so sorry! cate94 Sunday #13
Thank you so much Maeve 18 hrs ago #96
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Maeve. 💙 sheshe2 Sunday #14
I'm just glad I was there with her at the end. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #97
Wow, that's tough Maeve CountAllVotes Sunday #15
I will, thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #99
May her memory always be for a blessing. PCIntern Sunday #16
Beautiful. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #100
Big hug. ananda Sunday #17
I'm glad I was there for her. Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #101
My sympathy to you and your family Maeve. May livetohike Sunday #18
Thank you Maeve 18 hrs ago #102
Blessings on you, Maeve* mcar Sunday #19
You are right, it will be a long process. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #103
I'm so sorry Maeve JMCKUSICK Sunday #20
Thank you so much Maeve 17 hrs ago #104
Hey, Maeve, it sounds like you gave all. calimary Sunday #21
You are too kind. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #105
So sorry for your loss. Dear_Prudence Sunday #22
Thank you. I appreciate it Maeve 17 hrs ago #106
My deepest condolences, Maeve. brer cat Sunday #23
I'm glad I was there at the end. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #107
Dear Maeve, I send my love and understanding. ShazamIam Sunday #24
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #108
Sending! 2naSalit Sunday #25
Appreciated Maeve 17 hrs ago #109
Hugs and wishes Figarosmom Sunday #26
Thank you so much Maeve 17 hrs ago #110
Goodness. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I pray for strength for you. LoisB Sunday #27
Appreciated Maeve 17 hrs ago #111
You know we all are with you. mercuryblues Sunday #28
That's why I posted. DUers are amazing! Maeve 17 hrs ago #112
Even at 95 years old, and having years to prepare, I know it will be hard to deal with. patphil Sunday #29
What a great reminder, patphil! calimary Sunday #56
Slowly and then all at once. Yes, the next couple of weeks will be difficult. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #113
Sorry for your loss SocialDemocrat61 Sunday #30
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #114
I am so sorry. pandr32 Sunday #31
Appreciated. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #115
Hugs SallyHemmings Sunday #32
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #116
So sorry for your loss, Maeve 70sEraVet Sunday #33
Thank you so much Maeve 17 hrs ago #117
Blessings to you. I'm so happy you had her for that long!💜💜💜💜 1WorldHope Sunday #34
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #119
Stay strong and find peace. NoMoreRepugs Sunday #35
I will. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #120
Deepest condolences to you on the loss of virgdem Sunday #36
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #121
Prayers said for your family. hamsterjill Sunday #37
And I am lucky to have family to help. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #122
Holding you in light and love, dear Maeve. hugggggggggggggs niyad Sunday #38
DUers are the best! Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #123
So sorry for your loss! senseandsensibility Sunday #39
It comes in waves and yes, that makes it hard. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #124
I am so very sorry to read this irisblue Sunday #40
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #125
I understand. I've been a caregiver over a decade now, and I often think that should my love die, PatrickforB Sunday #41
Yeah, my week will lose some of its shape with her gone. Take care of yourself as well. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #126
(((gentle hug))) 🫂 mwmisses4289 Sunday #42
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #127
I'm so sorry. MontanaMama Sunday #43
I knew she wouldn't live long, but she went so fast it was a shock. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #128
You've got it! Sincere condolences. paleotn Sunday #44
My dad's been gone 46 years, but he still pops up in my dreams now and then. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #129
I'm so sorry, Maeve. I lost my mother several years ago, after years of being her caregiver (including highplainsdem Sunday #45
Thank you--quick story about signs Maeve 17 hrs ago #130
How perfect, to find that now. She'll appreciate it. highplainsdem 10 hrs ago #184
That was beautiful. Thank you again Maeve 9 hrs ago #187
So sorry for your loss, Maeve LNM Sunday #46
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #131
I'm so sorry, Maeve. swimboy Sunday #47
Appreciated Maeve 17 hrs ago #132
My deepest sympathies bamagal62 Sunday #48
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #133
So sorry, you're in my thoughts. CaptainTruth Sunday #49
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #134
Sorry for your loss hibbing Sunday #50
I'm glad I could be there but it did get trying at times. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #135
Oh, so sorry bdamomma Sunday #51
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #136
Sorry for your loss Tree Lady Sunday #52
Appreciated Maeve 17 hrs ago #137
(((BIG HUGS))) BumRushDaShow Sunday #53
Thank you, my friend Maeve 17 hrs ago #138
Take your time BumRushDaShow 17 hrs ago #148
And I have family to help, too Maeve 17 hrs ago #151
When my mom passed just over 10 years ago BumRushDaShow 16 hrs ago #155
Mom was in assisted care, so little property Maeve 16 hrs ago #158
Understood BumRushDaShow 16 hrs ago #176
Deepest sorrow for your mom and you. May the memories of your mom be a blessing to you, Sweet Maeve. debm55 Sunday #54
That is so sweet. Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #139
... Aristus Sunday #55
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #140
Comforting warmth headed your way Lifeafter70 Sunday #57
I will, thanks Maeve 17 hrs ago #141
Hi Maeve berniesandersmittens Sunday #58
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #142
I am so sorry mgardener Sunday #59
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #143
.. BlueWaveNeverEnd Sunday #60
Thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #144
So sorry for your loss ornotna Sunday #61
Appreciated Maeve 17 hrs ago #145
I understand so well. Staph Sunday #62
Oh, my! Blessings on you, as well! Maeve 17 hrs ago #146
Sending gentle hugs and strength as you deal with your sad loss and inch your way through this. 🩷 KitFox Sunday #63
It does feel like a slog, thank you Maeve 17 hrs ago #147
So sorry for your loss ms liberty Sunday #64
Thank you I knew DUers would step up Maeve 17 hrs ago #149
Dear Maeve, I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom Grim Chieftain Sunday #65
Thank you. I'm glad I was there at the end Maeve 17 hrs ago #150
You have my sympathy KT2000 Sunday #66
Thank you. And my dear Hubby will help take care of me! Maeve 16 hrs ago #152
My condolences on the loss of your mother MustLoveBeagles Sunday #67
Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #153
My heart is with you. Hope22 Sunday #68
I will, thanks Maeve 16 hrs ago #154
Comforting hugs, Maeve radical noodle Sunday #69
Thank you. DUers are the best! Maeve 8 hrs ago #191
I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Sunday #70
Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #159
You are loved. mr715 Sunday #71
I feel it. Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #160
Sending all sorts of positive thoughts and prayers Laurelin Sunday #72
Appreciate it. This thread has helped Maeve 16 hrs ago #161
More tan an ice for you Stinky The Clown Yesterday #73
Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #162
I am so sorry, Maeve. My condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Yesterday #74
Appeciate it Maeve 16 hrs ago #163
So sorry, Maeve. summer_in_TX Yesterday #75
Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #164
My condolences. You think you're ready, but you're not. DFW Yesterday #76
I have Hubby to see I don't overdo Maeve 16 hrs ago #165
Dear Maeve, I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Yesterday #77
I just had time to realize she was at the end and she was gone Maeve 16 hrs ago #166
Maeve, my heart is with you. ❤️ Silver Gaia Yesterday #78
Thank you so much Maeve 16 hrs ago #167
Surrounding you in Emerald Green healing energy Bread and Circuses 23 hrs ago #79
It is the season for the green, true Maeve 16 hrs ago #168
♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻 a kennedy 22 hrs ago #80
No words needed! Thank you, my friend Maeve 16 hrs ago #169
Restorative Thoughts headed you way. SleeplessinSoCal 22 hrs ago #81
Appreciated Maeve 16 hrs ago #170
🙏 my deepest sympathy 🙏 TommieMommy 19 hrs ago #82
Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #171
Sending good vibes your way! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E 18 hrs ago #83
Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #172
I am sorry for your loss JoseBalow 17 hrs ago #118
Thank you Maeve 16 hrs ago #173
deepest condolences ... sarchasm 16 hrs ago #156
Appreciate it. I will Maeve 16 hrs ago #174
I am so sorry Maeve jfz9580m 16 hrs ago #157
I have been in charge of Mom's finances for several years Maeve 16 hrs ago #175
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. Nevilledog 16 hrs ago #177
Just the love y'all have shown in this thread is sufficient Maeve 8 hrs ago #189
I am truly sorry for your loss. Erda 15 hrs ago #178
Appreciated, thanks Maeve 8 hrs ago #190
Very sorry for your loss dlk 15 hrs ago #179
I feel you MaineNative 14 hrs ago #180
Welcome to DU, MaineNative. calimary 9 hrs ago #185
Thank you Maeve 8 hrs ago #192
Just remember to give yourself some time Old Crank 14 hrs ago #181
I will, thank you Maeve 8 hrs ago #193
(((BIG HUG))) proud patriot 12 hrs ago #182
Thank you, I needed that Maeve 8 hrs ago #194
Thoughts and prayers on their way, air mail special delivery. Permanut 10 hrs ago #183
We often think it will be easier, knowing they lived so long. Not so. Thank you Maeve 8 hrs ago #195
Thanks for letting us know, Maeve. calimary 9 hrs ago #186
I've known some of you for the better part of 25 years. I trusted that you'd lift me up, and I was right! Maeve 8 hrs ago #196
My sincere sympathy at the loss of your mother. No matter how old we are we will always miss them. pazzyanne 8 hrs ago #188
Much appreciated Maeve 8 hrs ago #197
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