So I just got this email from an in-law:

[Ocelot II]

53. Exactly. I haven't actually seen her or spoken with her in many years, since she left the state,

but when she still lived in the area she was inexplicably hostile toward me when I did see her. Since she and her husband, my actual relative, moved away, the only communications directly from her have been an annual Christmas email which is always a collection of photos of their travels, humblebragging about her acts of philanthropy, and little right-wing political digs. She's a textbook narcissist. I believe it's her way of trying to make me envy her relative wealth, which I do not. I never write back. I don't initiate communication. If you send someone material you know they are likely to find offensive and insulting, obviously you're intending to offend and insult them. Why she is doing this is still beyond me, but I won't respond and I won't change my email address on account of an elderly troll.