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Atheists & Agnostics

eppur_se_muova

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15. I feel safely out with professional colleagues, but very closeted with family. Religion strong on both sides of the tree

Reply to NNadir (Original post)

Sun Oct 5, 2025, 04:36 PM

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I even have a couple of pastors among my cousins, one of whom changed careers late in life.

My extended family is so large, it complicates things. I don't want to have to keep up with who's "in on it" and who isn't.

I notice we've never had an atheist POTUS, and I think only one member of Congress --- THAT WE KNOW OF. The current occupant of the Oval Office is certainly a CINO, but doesn't suffer for it. If he declared himself an atheist -- which might be more accurate than his own claims -- it would be the most explosive news of the year (much more so than all that extrajudicial killing and stuff).

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